Lately, Gracie has been throwing tantrum. It is said that children will start testing their limits when they are two years old. They would start saying no. And we all know that children would throw tantrum to get their ways.
Gracie is especially stubborn. Both my mother and mother-in-law think so too. She would cry easily, just to get what she wants. She is already immuned to my wife's threat and scolding. My wife has a quick temper so Gracie has gotten used to it. My wife has given up as well. My wife will then blame me for not being firm. It is not that I do not discipline Gracie. I am stubborn too, I guess. Nothing affects Gracie more than being ignored by me. By now, she has learnt that I can be unyielding and I mean business when I start counting to three. If she does not listen to me, I would ignore her for the rest of the day. Actually, I would feel very bad and my day would be spoilt. Fortunately, Gracie has learnt to stop crying whenever I start the countdown. Initially, there were twice when she wouldn't back down even when it was time for bed. My wife chided me the next day when I continued the silent treatment. It was difficult. Gracie would stand right next to me and told my wife that I was angry with, that she had been naughty. I really do not want her to go to sleep with unhappy memories. I think I did right as Gracie has learnt to obey when I get serious. I worry about my wife though. There were a few times when she lost control and gave Gracie a hard pat on her leg or bum. I can see that there will be more serious conflict between the two.
My wife related this to me the other day. One of her friend caned her children. Apparently, she was so mad with them that she shouted that she cannot tolerate it anymore and then caned them. When she quietened down, her son sobbingly told her, "Next time, do not control your anger. Hit me whenever you are angry. Do not wait till you can't take it anymore. It is too frightening!" She had accidentally left a scar on her son's face with her cane.
I remember when I was caned by my mother. I was probably less than 10 years old. I do not remember that I did anything particularly bad. I think my mother broke down because of a quarrel with my father. I remembered because she was crying after she hit me. And I felt her pain more than my own,
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
A Time To Be Silent
My wife and I had a little tiff the other day. We were talking about something and our voices got louder. Gracie quickly stepped in to defuse the situation. She said,"hao le, hao le, bu yao jiang le!" - "OK, OK, don't talk anymore!". And gave both of us a grin.
She is still more than 2 months shy of her third birthday. Already, she learnt how to step between us to calm things down. We were not really quarrelling. As usual, my wife refused to admit that she has slipped up. Normally, I will just ignore it. That time, she irked me by talking about the matter for the third time. We had returned from grocery shopping. My wife bought 2 packs of diaper. Each pack is supposed to come with a free kiddy tee-shirt. When putting things away, I noticed that one pack is the normal one without the tee-shirt. When I told my wife, she immediately started to accuse (1.) me, as usual, of losing it, (2.) the bad-hearted people in general, for stealing it (3.) the cashier for swopping the pack etc etc.
I was annoyed the first time. Irritated the second time. When she brought it again for the third time after half an hour, I told her straight in the face that she has taken the wrong pack. A big mistake. So our voices got louder and louder till Gracie stepped in. That was 2 days ago. Just today, my wife told that I always refuse to admit when I am wrong. I chortled and kept quiet.
She is still more than 2 months shy of her third birthday. Already, she learnt how to step between us to calm things down. We were not really quarrelling. As usual, my wife refused to admit that she has slipped up. Normally, I will just ignore it. That time, she irked me by talking about the matter for the third time. We had returned from grocery shopping. My wife bought 2 packs of diaper. Each pack is supposed to come with a free kiddy tee-shirt. When putting things away, I noticed that one pack is the normal one without the tee-shirt. When I told my wife, she immediately started to accuse (1.) me, as usual, of losing it, (2.) the bad-hearted people in general, for stealing it (3.) the cashier for swopping the pack etc etc.
I was annoyed the first time. Irritated the second time. When she brought it again for the third time after half an hour, I told her straight in the face that she has taken the wrong pack. A big mistake. So our voices got louder and louder till Gracie stepped in. That was 2 days ago. Just today, my wife told that I always refuse to admit when I am wrong. I chortled and kept quiet.
Friday, September 18, 2009
Chicken Rice War
There is a conflict brewing between lovers of Chicken Rice in Malaysia and Singapore. The Malaysian Tourist Minister is making plans to stake claim on Chicken Rice as a Malaysian food. He is also making claims on dishes like Laksa and Chilli Crab. He claimed that Malaysia's signature dishes are being 'hijacked' by other countries. Well, you be the judge. I know that emotion run high for some people. To me, it is just silly, even stupid, to suggest such things when the row over pendant dance has not cooled down. Discovery Channel inadvertently created tension between Malaysia and Indonesia by airing a segment on the Indonesian pendant dance in a show promoting Malaysia. This infuriated numerous Indonesians, some whom took to the street to protest against Malaysia's thief of Indonesian culture.
I love my Chicken Rice. Especially, the home cooked Hainanese Chicken Rice made by my mother, my maternal grandmother and paternal grandmother. I remember that my mother will painstakingly pinched out the juicy thigh meat for me. She would eat the drier breast meat that few people prefer. Just like for fishes. I love the fish meat around the cheek and dorsal area. These parts would be reserved for me when I was young. I did appreciate that my mother was sacrificing little pleasure so that I can have the best parts. Now that I am a parent, I found myself doing that. Gracie is very choosy about food. At times, she will like the crispy part of fried fish or meat. I would choose the tastier portion for her. I would eat the dry chicken breast meat which I used to detest. I guess it is part of parenting.
I love my Chicken Rice. Especially, the home cooked Hainanese Chicken Rice made by my mother, my maternal grandmother and paternal grandmother. I remember that my mother will painstakingly pinched out the juicy thigh meat for me. She would eat the drier breast meat that few people prefer. Just like for fishes. I love the fish meat around the cheek and dorsal area. These parts would be reserved for me when I was young. I did appreciate that my mother was sacrificing little pleasure so that I can have the best parts. Now that I am a parent, I found myself doing that. Gracie is very choosy about food. At times, she will like the crispy part of fried fish or meat. I would choose the tastier portion for her. I would eat the dry chicken breast meat which I used to detest. I guess it is part of parenting.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
No Time
We borrowed a DVD from the library - "Bindi, The Jungle Girl". Gracie enjoyed watching the DVD over and over again. I can't help but reflect on the legacy that Bindi's famous father, the late Steve Irwin, left behind. Bindi obviously had a great childhood and Steve was a big part of her everyday life. I want to spend as much time as I can with Gracie. That is why my golf clubs are gathering dust in the storeroom, along with my diving gears, hiking boots, camping and wake boarding gears. I am often made aware of my lack of personal time but I guess I have no regret.
Gracie would hatch on to me once I returned from work. My wife would then heave a sign of relief and retire to do her own things. I do enjoy every moment with Gracie. Although many times, I would struggled to keep up as Gracie wakes up late in the morning and goes to bed late. Whereas I have to wake up early to go to work. So I would be very tired while Gracie is a bundle of energy all through the evening.
Even writing this blog is a challenge as Gracie would interrupt occasionally. Either for a cuddle or to ask to use the laptop to access her favourite website - Boowa and Kwala. This is a great website for kids with many activties, animations and songs.
Check it out at http://www.boowakwala.com.
I try not to turn away Gracie whenever she interrupts. Many times, work that I brought home to complete, are done after midnight. Now I understand why many of my colleagues who have children, looked so tired and run-down when they came to work. I am becoming one of the fathers who do not get enough sleep.
Gracie would hatch on to me once I returned from work. My wife would then heave a sign of relief and retire to do her own things. I do enjoy every moment with Gracie. Although many times, I would struggled to keep up as Gracie wakes up late in the morning and goes to bed late. Whereas I have to wake up early to go to work. So I would be very tired while Gracie is a bundle of energy all through the evening.
Even writing this blog is a challenge as Gracie would interrupt occasionally. Either for a cuddle or to ask to use the laptop to access her favourite website - Boowa and Kwala. This is a great website for kids with many activties, animations and songs.
Check it out at http://www.boowakwala.com.
I try not to turn away Gracie whenever she interrupts. Many times, work that I brought home to complete, are done after midnight. Now I understand why many of my colleagues who have children, looked so tired and run-down when they came to work. I am becoming one of the fathers who do not get enough sleep.
Friday, September 11, 2009
Dreams
I often wondered about what babies dream about when they sleep. When Gracie was younger, we would watch in amusement as she made funny expressions and kicked her legs when sleeping. Early this morning, Gracie talked in her sleep. She yelled, "I want, I want the dustbin!". Cute! I wondered what sort of dream she was in then.
I read somewhere that if you do not recall your dream in the first 2 minutes after you woke up, you will forget your dream completely. So it is not that we did not dream, but we lost them after we woke up. I cannot recall many of my dreams. There have been some where I was transported back to the places of my childhood. There was once that I dreamt of my father although I cannot remember the details now. That was some time after he died. I guess the last days of his life had left some impressions.
I can still remember when I was young I would have sad dreams about losing my mother and waking up crying. That was around the times when I came to understand death. It took me quite a few years to learn how to cope with what would be inevitable. Now, my mother is still healthy and strong at 71 years old. God bless her with a long and happy life.
I guess as parents, we all have responsibility to stay healthy. For the sake of our children. That is the main reason I gave up smoking. Likewise for my wife.
I read somewhere that if you do not recall your dream in the first 2 minutes after you woke up, you will forget your dream completely. So it is not that we did not dream, but we lost them after we woke up. I cannot recall many of my dreams. There have been some where I was transported back to the places of my childhood. There was once that I dreamt of my father although I cannot remember the details now. That was some time after he died. I guess the last days of his life had left some impressions.
I can still remember when I was young I would have sad dreams about losing my mother and waking up crying. That was around the times when I came to understand death. It took me quite a few years to learn how to cope with what would be inevitable. Now, my mother is still healthy and strong at 71 years old. God bless her with a long and happy life.
I guess as parents, we all have responsibility to stay healthy. For the sake of our children. That is the main reason I gave up smoking. Likewise for my wife.
Friday, September 4, 2009
Back To China
Yesterday, my wife decided to go back to China to visit her mother. Her mother is feeling lonely and asked her to go back for a short stay. My wife was half-minded about the trip. She has doubts whether Gracie is willing to stay there for 2 months. Gracie has became more attached to me than to her.
I know I will miss Gracie badly as I had, the last thing she went to China. But I was prepared to let them go. I can understand how my mother-in-law misses my wife. It is the same thing as for Gracie with me.
In the end, my wife decided to stay to keep me company as I am going for a minor surgery on my knee. She has totally forgotten about it when she made the decision to go back to China. I was relieved. Frankly, I will miss Gracie more than I will miss my wife. My wife has gone back to China at least once a year since we got married. Each time for around 2 months. Initially, I missed her. Later I grew to enjoy the freedom more. When she is away, I became a total slop. The house will only get cleaned once a week. Dish washing often piled up for 2 days. I enjoyed the time alone, seeing TV or surfing the net with a beer in hand. When I get bored, I will seek out old friends and hit the pubs. Gracie first went to China back when she was less than a year old. I missed her badly and it did not helped that she cannot talk over the phone.
My wife and I often wondered whether Gracie will take up residency in another country when she is older. As it is, she refuses to return home every single time whenever we bring her out. Sometimes, those are her first words once leaving the house - "I dun wanna go home".
I guess with globalisation, it is unavoidable. My wife for example, would not have settled here if she or her family is reluctant to accept the separation.
I know I will miss Gracie badly as I had, the last thing she went to China. But I was prepared to let them go. I can understand how my mother-in-law misses my wife. It is the same thing as for Gracie with me.
In the end, my wife decided to stay to keep me company as I am going for a minor surgery on my knee. She has totally forgotten about it when she made the decision to go back to China. I was relieved. Frankly, I will miss Gracie more than I will miss my wife. My wife has gone back to China at least once a year since we got married. Each time for around 2 months. Initially, I missed her. Later I grew to enjoy the freedom more. When she is away, I became a total slop. The house will only get cleaned once a week. Dish washing often piled up for 2 days. I enjoyed the time alone, seeing TV or surfing the net with a beer in hand. When I get bored, I will seek out old friends and hit the pubs. Gracie first went to China back when she was less than a year old. I missed her badly and it did not helped that she cannot talk over the phone.
My wife and I often wondered whether Gracie will take up residency in another country when she is older. As it is, she refuses to return home every single time whenever we bring her out. Sometimes, those are her first words once leaving the house - "I dun wanna go home".
I guess with globalisation, it is unavoidable. My wife for example, would not have settled here if she or her family is reluctant to accept the separation.
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Baby Talk
Gracie is no longer a baby. Somebody made that remark recently when I talk about my baby. At two and a half, she is a little woman now. That is true but she will always be my baby.
Anyway, I really enjoy listening to things that she says. It bring a smile to everybody in house everyday. My wife and my my mother will often recount to me, things that Gracie said in the day when I return from work.
Lately, Gracie has taken to role-playing us. For example, she would pretend to be angry and scold us using the same words that we used. She would stumble over the words as she still cannot string together a complete long sentence.
"See! See! I told you so many times! You just wouldn't listen!" - imitating my wife.
"If I have to repeat myself thrice, I am going to be angry!" - imitating me.
"If you continue crying, I will dump you in the dustbin!" - imitating my mother.
Sometimes we would play with her by imitating her whinning.
"I want that! I want that!" - something that she would yell in response to almost all TV commercials. When we role play as a child and whine like her, Gracie will automatically assume the parent role. She would patiently but forcefully say, "OK, OK, we will buy that tomorrow."
Sometimes, Gracie would play with her doll or teddy bear and patiently persuade it to eat more vegetable. Or she would pick the phone and start talking as if talking to Candy, my wife's friend. She would go, "Mmm,mmm, I am busy right now. Mmm, mmm, OK, Ok. Mmm, mmm, make it quick...". I would look at my wife or mother and both of us would smile.
That's how precious Gracie is to us, she really put a smile on everybody with her baby talk. I look forward to holding her everyday as I drive home from work. A smile on my face in spite of the traffic and the rude drivers.
Anyway, I really enjoy listening to things that she says. It bring a smile to everybody in house everyday. My wife and my my mother will often recount to me, things that Gracie said in the day when I return from work.
Lately, Gracie has taken to role-playing us. For example, she would pretend to be angry and scold us using the same words that we used. She would stumble over the words as she still cannot string together a complete long sentence.
"See! See! I told you so many times! You just wouldn't listen!" - imitating my wife.
"If I have to repeat myself thrice, I am going to be angry!" - imitating me.
"If you continue crying, I will dump you in the dustbin!" - imitating my mother.
Sometimes we would play with her by imitating her whinning.
"I want that! I want that!" - something that she would yell in response to almost all TV commercials. When we role play as a child and whine like her, Gracie will automatically assume the parent role. She would patiently but forcefully say, "OK, OK, we will buy that tomorrow."
Sometimes, Gracie would play with her doll or teddy bear and patiently persuade it to eat more vegetable. Or she would pick the phone and start talking as if talking to Candy, my wife's friend. She would go, "Mmm,mmm, I am busy right now. Mmm, mmm, OK, Ok. Mmm, mmm, make it quick...". I would look at my wife or mother and both of us would smile.
That's how precious Gracie is to us, she really put a smile on everybody with her baby talk. I look forward to holding her everyday as I drive home from work. A smile on my face in spite of the traffic and the rude drivers.
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